
I have come across many instances when people think that they are above all. To make others feel the same they make them do things what they want them to do. They make them say something bad, do something bad etc. And, they are the people who are negative in the eyes of almost 99.9% of the people (of course, the 1% are they).
Now think of people who do good to others such as people who do social service. They help people. Definitely they don’t get noticed in the eyes of the public for what they do. But what they do for the people who they intend to do, such as helping the poor, they become Gods in their eyes.
Now you know the difference between these people, don’t you? So, who are you, the earlier or the latter? Well, it doesn’t matter who you are, because you can change it anytime and anywhere. In this article I’ll show you how.
Treat others as you want them to treat you
You want people to treat you nicely; you want them to praise you. But it doesn’t happen. Why? Because you are not doing the same to them. Feel the same way for others as you want them to feel for you. If you feel that others are smaller, lesser valuable than you, then they will think the same.
If you feel that others are greater, and equal to you, then they will think the same for you. And apart from this you will also feel peace inside you, because you don’t have any ill thoughts for others, instead you have good and positive thoughts. They will reflect back to you in reality. They will turn up as good instances happening to you.
For example, if a person has ill thoughts for his colleagues, in this case bullies, then others also have the same for him. But they are good in their emotions. They feel good with their friends. While the bully, on one hand shows that he’s very powerful, he gets scolding from teachers, parents, neighbors etc.
On the other hand, a person feels good for others. He treats them as important as God himself. He makes them feel good, people like him. And guess what? He may not get good grades, but he’s a true role model in everyone’s eyes. And because of this, he now scores good grades. And to put the cherry on the cake, other people, such as teachers, parents, neighbors etc. like him.
These examples, as you would have thought while reading them, are true in reality. That’s why they are called examples, duh!
Be Grateful
The second this is to be grateful for everything in your life. Well, as other books and authors will say you that be grateful for this and that. I will tell you to feel grateful for only one big thing that you have. Try it now.
I said be grateful for one thing that you really, really love.
How does it feel? Great, right? Yeah, it indeed is! Now as you feel grateful for that thing, be grateful for another thing, that you like. May be for the kind of relationships you have or anything you like. It doesn’t necessarily mean that what I am saying to be grateful about you grateful about it. It can be anything. Repeat this anytime of the day you feel like. And you will see your life transformed.
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Excellent post idea Manav. I like how you presented the concept of the Golden Rule.
Whenever you feel lacking it’s time to give. Whenever you want to be treated better treat others better. Your life is a reflection of your inner mental state. Try to change your life by force and you’ll make things tougher on yourself. By force I mean attempting to manipulate outside conditions with your will power. This is a no-no because force negates. You’ll be sick and broke before you improve things, if in fact you ever do.
People expect others to treat them kindly without any effort on their part. Nobody will give to you what you haven’t already given to them; attention, compassion, kindness.
Remember this: life is a mirror. Your results have their origin on the screen of your mind. To change your life go within and adjust your thoughts and feelings.
Hey Ryan! When you don’t have something, it’s a kind of a alarm from the Universe to tell you that: GO ON BUDDY, YOU NEED TO GIVE! Yup, a slightest change in your thoughts can do wonders (both positive and negative, according to your thoughts).
Yeah, you really can’t, and SHOULD NOT try to manipulate anything, be in the flow, and try your level best to not break it.
Thanks for commenting Ryan!
yes, very apt post!
Being grateful for what we have in our life is the first step for being happy!
Hey Sorcerer! Welcome to my blog, and thanks for commenting! Yup, be grateful, and you’ll never be sad!
Wise young man…I am impressed!…great post with realistic observations
Haha! Thanks Nalini!
Namaste,
Good Post. Good observation as per your age. Swami Vivekananda said that those who talk in a more intelligent or mature way are difficult to understand, specially by the the ones of similar age group.
Thanks for your words and kind comment. Yeah, most of my friends can’t understand what I say, that’s why I write them here.
Thanks again.
Manav,
Now I know why people think you are mature! You really are!!
It is really simple to be a bad man! Even the society is secretly motivating the people by giving negative role models through news papers, TV, movies etc! People always want to get entertained, they want to live their life to the fullest for these, they will forget humanity!!
Unfortunately, many among us consider our achievements by the amount of money you receive in your job! You may not get paid for helping others but, getting paid is not the only requirement in your life! In your future your closest friend may create a show-off in front of you by saying “Look man!! I got a lamborghini at my home! Stylish performer! What have you got? Humanitarian??”. A Lamborghini may be a lifetime achievement for him but, it need not be an achievement to everyone of us! He will be a god to his family but, he will never be a god in the society! Your post is really motivating me to think! You are making a lot of sense!
Everybody is looking for role models! Just try to create a positive one!
Good post!! Keep writing!
Sincerely,
Raghu
Hey Raghu! Thank you so very much for commenting. I agree with the Lamborghini thing!
Thanks a lot for your kind words, you rock buddy!